Want to know how to make someone fall in love with you?
I understand where you’re coming from. I’ve been there too.
Well, a lot of people fall in love and use inappropriate or unfair means to win over their crush. Meanwhile, their crush tries to break free of their psychotic behavior.
After all, when you begin to have feelings of love for someone, you desperately want them to reciprocate the same.
But don’t worry, I’ve prepared everything you need in this think-piece to turn your love at first sight into a soulmate… without making them uncomfortable.
Let’s know the secret to their heart… and I hope they fall for you, hard!
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How to Make someone Fall in Love with you – 30 Ways
A word from ThePleasantRelationship
How to Make someone Fall in Love with you – 30 Ways
Falling in love is easy. But making someone fall deeply in love with you is tricky.
Don’t worry, I’ve divided the process into 30 techniques (some of them are interesting psychological tricks) that can make your love interest fall in love with you!
Here you go!
1. First, love yourself
The journey starts from within…
You cannot make someone fall in love with you if you don’t love yourself. Work on your personality, connect with your inner self, accept your flaws, and appreciate your abilities. Embrace who you are.
Take care of your mind, body, and soul. Be loyal to yourself.
When you love yourself, it really doesn’t matter if people around you love you or not. This makes you look self-confident and independent.
These two traits naturally attract people towards you, because you are your own shelter. It makes you stronger and more responsible.
2. Make sure you are a potential partner
You may not spell it out loud, but you’re aware of the traits you desire in your partner. You have a preconceived notion that makes it easier for you to identify your potential partner.
If you want that special person to fall for you, then identify all the traits they have been looking for in their partner of dreams.
No, you do not have to don shining armor and Cinderella’s glass shoes… Just make sure you are compatible with them.
Some common values and morals, you know. As long as you satisfy the basics, you are good to go.
3. Put your best appearance forward
They say the first impression is the last impression. I do not quite agree with this.
But it is true that if you want someone to know you better, you first need to make sure their eyes stay put on you… long enough for them to approach you.
So, make sure you keep your best foot forward. Don’t try too hard and stress yourself over this. Just indulge in self-care.
Prioritize your physical and mental health, get regular with your cardio and be mindful about your diet. When you eat well, you look good and feel good.
Nothing is more appealing than a well-maintained and confident person.
4. Flaunt that smiling curve on your face
Your smile is a curve on your face that sets everything right.
Of all other facial expressions, a smile is the most heart-warming of all. When you smile, your facial expression exudes positive energy. It presents you as a confident person.
Smiling can make you more appealing than before.
When your crush is busy noticing your smile, they might ignore your other unattractive. So, now you know how a smile can compensate for other shortcomings in your personality.
Crack a joke yourself and laugh at it together!
5. Stay a mystery
Leave some room for imagination. When you keep things to yourself by not disclosing the whole plot, the prospect will always come back for more.
Don’t just blabber every detail about you, let them take that extra step to find it out.
The more you stay secretive the more attractive you might seem to them – It’s the natural human tendency
So, if you really want them to chase you, stay more mysterious and undercover.
6. Let them toil a Lil
Nobody plays hard intentionally… but if done wisely, it works well.
Research shows that playing hard to get makes you more desirable. The other person might feel that it’s a challenge or it’s not everyone’s cup of tea to get you.
For instance, if your crush thinks that it is really tough to win over you… they will definitely put more effort to find a way to your heart.
This may be one of the best ways to get the girl’s/boy’s attention you’ve been yearning for a long time.
7. Indulge in their passions
Do you know about your crush’s likes and dislikes? What makes them happy? Do you both share some same interests?
If not, then talk about their passion and interests. Often, passionate love finds a kickstart with some common passionate conversations.
When you meet people with common interests, you naturally feel connected.
You might not like playing chess, but there is no harm in trying if that gives you some quality time with your love interest.
Plus, it’ll also give them an assurance that whether or not you enjoy the activity, you’ll still accompany them.
8. Let the eye do the talking!
Make eye contact more often. Everyone who said, It’s All In The Eyes and Eyes Don’t Lie wasn’t lying.
Observe how they behave when your eyes meet and how they react to a minute of eye contact.
During the initial stages, eye contact can give you butterflies in the stomach… and that’s normal.
Whenever you look at them, let your eyes voice your emotions. Express I love you through your eyes. Trust me, they’ll know what you feel without even saying.
9. Touch them often, but casually
The opposite genders are very sensitive to touch. Our bodies can well identify the intention behind every touch.
To further intensify the intimacy, try caressing their shoulders gently, playing with their hair, or holding their hands when you talk about a sensitive topic.
Let your fingers slightly touch their fingers when you walk side by side. Or maybe, you can give them a side hug to greet.
A hug will release Oxytocin which is also known as the love hormone.
These light intimate moments will help you both bond deeper.
10. Listen to your crush
Good listening skills are not a common trait to many. If I ask you – Do you like it when someone actively listens to you and engages in the conversation? Your answer will definitely be a YES.
After all, who doesn’t want to be heard? A person who listens to you with genuine interest will appear to you a lot more attractive than you really are.
Listen to them talk about their interests, dreams, their hopes, families, memories, and their aspirations.
Be a part of the conversation, counter-ask, and let your partner dive into the petty details.
But yes, don’t constantly ask them to share more, and hey, never interrupt when they are talking.
11. Be their friend first
It’s good that you are planning a long-term commitment, but you cannot just jump into it.
When you are all eager to make someone fall in love with you, start the journey with a healthy friendship.
Support them with all your heart and be a shoulder in their tough times. Also, this phase is a great opportunity to know more about their likes and dislikes.
Friendship is the safest way to walk into someone’s life and know them more closely and casually.
And who knows, perhaps this is what you actually want, and not a proper commitment or relationship.
12. Hold on… take it easy
When you try to make them fall in love with you, you cannot chase their feelings.
Never be a creepy lover who constantly chases their love interest. If you do this, you’ll only scare them away with your desperate behavior.
It also depends on the nature of the person you are dealing with.
For example, there are people who enjoy being chased, but then there are people who simply cannot compromise with their personal space and peace of mind.
So, you gotta observe what they want and proceed accordingly.
13. Leave some distance
Distance makes the heart grow fonder.
You don’t need to create miles of distance between you and your crush. Rather, disappear occasionally… no that’s not a cue to ghost them.
For example, it won’t harm you if you don’t attend your classes for a day or two, provided both of you are in the same class.
You can also call a sick-day off from the office, if you both share the same office space.
If they come to see you home, you know your answer!
Similarly, if you leave for home a little earlier than usual, and they ask you to stay back, it again denotes that they are fond of you.
So, this “distance” is going to make them desperate for you.
14. Mirror their actions
Don’t imitate them 24×7. Instead imitate one or two special body gestures. For example, your crush can have a unique way of holding a cup of coffee, or they can have their own way of “hugging”.
These are very few actions that you need to mirror, don’t start copying their body language too much. That will make you look like a cheap creep despo.
On the contrary, mirroring their special actions will build your interpersonal bonding. Your crush will feel more connected.
Plus, they will also start noticing you in the crowd, because you share common traits with them.
15. Don’t lose your original personality in the process
No matter what you do to impress your crush, the process mustn’t change your authentic personality.
Even if you seek a casual hook-up… trying to be somebody else than what you are will make you less comfortable with them. And when they see the real you, they will feel disappointed.
You might not realize that as individuals, you’re gifted with several unique traits which makes you, YOU.
You can always improve yourself for a good reason but changing yourself for another is a futile endeavor… nobody wants to be around such people.
16. Make them feel special
Will you date someone who doesn’t make you feel special? Of Course NOT!
Same goes for your crush.
This is your cue to make a serious effort to make your crush feel special. If they feel under confident or confused about their life, then be the first one to motivate them.
Appreciate their positive traits but make sure the praises are genuine and from-the-heart. Real compliments go a long way in comparison to cheesy flatterings…
17. Flaunt your skills
Don’t hesitate from flaunting your innate talents… they will feel good that you are passionate about something.
For instance, you might be a brilliant guitarist or a fantastic painter. Let them know about your skills and talents.
Don’t brag about it, rather use your skills to surprise them… It makes you seem more worthy.
If you are fortunate enough and their hobby coincides with yours, then you both can spend a good time practicing the skills together.
Plus, it also makes you a lot more prospect-worthy now! 😉
18. Shower kindness
Never be arrogant, not just with your crush but even in life. Kindness is one such virtue that can help you stand away from the crowd.
You will naturally draw your crush towards yourself if they watch you helping the needy, feeding the stray dogs, or even helping a blind man cross the road.
Being kind or generous mustn’t be a pretense. It is a human trait and you must display it naturally.
People with great personalities must be naturally kind towards their surroundings to attract others.
19. Let them know you’re not perfect.
So, what if you’re flawed, no one is perfect. Embrace your negative qualities and don’t hesitate to talk about your flaws in front of them.
Share your vulnerabilities, show them you are not perfect. Trust me, this will make you look more attractive than any perfect man or woman.
Flaunt your flaws as you flaunt your skills. You are a human and it’s natural for you to be a mixture of odds and even.
However, if you have some extremely unacceptable habits, then dude, improve as soon as possible! It’s never too late.
20. Be their emotional support
Successful relationships are always more about emotional comfort than physical comfort.
Let your crush know that you’ll be emotionally available for them, no matter what. They must feel safe and secure with you.
Don’t step back from holding their hands, or extending your shoulders when they need to cry.
Who knows if they are having a tough time dealing with their feelings and emotions?
They won’t reveal their vulnerable side easily, they will need some time and space to trust you which leads us to the next tip.
21. Create trust
Trust is the foundation of all great and healthy relationships.
Make your crush feel that they can depend upon you for everything in their life or reveal anything to you.
You cannot create trust in a day. It takes a really long time. Be patient and calm while you’re at it… only consistent efforts and patience can help you win their heart.
They will trust you only when you are honest in your life. Make sure they don’t find you telling lies or making stories in the desire to impress.
Be immensely respectful and sensitive when they finally open up to you. Your insensitive reactions can push them back into the box… and this time for forever!
22. Take a stand for them
Men and women both must take an equal stand for their significant other… and when you do that for your crush, it solidifies their confidence in you.
If you notice them facing unfair challenges in life, then you must try to support them with all your might. Don’t show off or overdo it… but also make sure, your crush is never standing alone!
Being a strong voice for them when they really need it will trigger a sense of safety and security. Trust me, this tip alone can draw them extremely close to you.
They will depend on you and love you for having their back.
23. Respect them
No one wants to bear the brunt of a toxic or abusive relationship. If you cannot respect your partner, then take my advice and end it already.
A relationship where the partners don’t respect each other will simply be a circle of toxicity.
Marrying an abusive person and having kids with them will affect the lives of the kids too.
Respect does not only imply talking politely to your crush. Besides being respectful during conversations, respect their decisions, ideas, and opinions.
You may have differences in your thought processes, but that mustn’t make you disrespect your significant other.
24. Help them
Get on your toes to help your partner in need. Do you see them struggling with something? Come on, extend a hand!
By helping, I mean genuinely helping from time to time, no BS. But once you do that, don’t sit back to write books on your kindness and seek gratitude.
For example, if they left their cell phone in a shop or transport, leave no stone unturned to help them find it.
It doesn’t take much to pass them the bottle of water when they need it. These are small gestures that make them feel looked after.
Don’t feel pressured and burdened with whatever you do for your crush. Do it because it makes you happy to help them.
25. Let them breathe with you
Accept them for who they are, let them be their real self when they are around you. Your crush must not feel any kind of discomfort with you.
You never want to be with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable and inferior. Else, you’ll pretend to be someone who you are not.
So, don’t “try” too hard.
Let them laugh wholeheartedly, let them sob loudly, and let them crack nasty jokes. They must be able to do anything in your company.
26. Spend quality time with them
Look for ways in which both of you can spend some quality time together. Go for a walk or a bicycle ride.
Take them to a special place that you know. It might be spending time along a riverside, a hill, a park, or a Cafe.
Make sure that the place is free of chaos and noise. No distractions must spoil the moment. Leave your Cell phones at home… No digital disturbance is allowed.
Make the best use of this time and step closer to your crush. Don’t get physical with them unless you get any positive cues.
Strike deep conversations, make eye contact, and make an effort to know them as a human… trust me, if you hit the right chords, they’re bound to feel a connection never felt before.
27. Don’t miss the fun and adventures
Never deprive a love relationship of humor and excitement. Crack jokes, laugh at their punchlines, have fun with your crush.
Play pranks on them, tease them without crossing the limits. Being a little naughty is always beneficial.
Try new and thrilling activities with them. New adventures, challenges, and tasks will bring you both together and force you to play like a team.
Eventually, they will seek you more because they love your entertaining side. That does not mean you need to be a pro entertainer.
It mustn’t be all about their enjoyment… even you must enjoy the fun and exciting adventures with your crush.
28. Mutual friends are catalysts
Mutual friends often play cupid in the relationship. You get to know so many intimate details about your crush.
Ask your mutual friend about the things he/she likes and can surprise them.
When relationships get a little boring, ask your mutual friends to go on a double date with you and add the spice to your date nights.
Although your first trusted person must always be your partner, friends also act as a great support
Moreover, in dark times, they can come in handy to help you both resolve the issue.
29. Ask for their suggestions
If you really want them to fall in love with you and engage in a long-term relationship, then you must always seek their suggestions for all your decisions, big or small.
Write their name on the top of your wise advisors’ list.
This small gesture communicates that you value their advice… and makes them feel cherished.
Soon after, you’ll find that your crush is also approaching you for all the important decisions in their life.
30. Look for what’s missing in their life
Connecting superficially with them won’t suffice… If you want them to fall for you, connect with them deeply.
Find out what they lack in life, what makes them sad… and see how you can help them.
If you can fill the void in their life, nothing like it. It’ll make them believe that you are the one.
Plus, this also shows that you are not just sympathetic for your crush, but also empathetic.
Now that you have all the tips, here’s one last tip: understand that nothing happens overnight. You need to be consistent and patient… and above all, stay hopeful.
If you have lost hope in the first few days, then there is no point in continuing it any further.
So what if they did not notice your efforts, in the first couple of days? Nobody told you that the happy day would never arrive!
For lovers, sometimes hope is all that you have. Remain optimistic in your pursuit and you’ll soon see the results.
A word from ThePleasantRelationship
If you have been investing all your efforts for a long time and the NO from their side has always been consistent… then just know that NO MEANS NO.
You can’t control someone’s love for you… but don’t act like a desperate and stubborn lover who attempts unfair means to cage their beloved.
You can’t achieve everything you want in life… Not because you don’t deserve them, but because you deserve better!
It’s all a matter of perspective. Make sure you have a constructive outlook at the end of the day.
Believe in yourself because someday your stars will shine and your lucky one will come to you from the front door!
- Gradually deepen intimacy.
- Use body language.
- Get out of your comfort zones together.
- Remain your own person.
- Understand their needs.
- Offer small acts of kindness.
- Be patient.
- Don't try to force it.
Attraction is one of the contributing factors to falling in love, especially in the initial stages. That attraction may not be just physical, but also emotional and sexual. Some people may get attracted to shared interests, resources, status, or intellect too.What are the 5 easy steps to fall in love? ›
- Keep eye contact. According to American social psychologist, lawyer, and author Zick Rubin's study people who are in love maintain eye contact 75 per cent of the time. ...
- Be a good listener. ...
- Validation. ...
- Smiling. ...
- Get closer to him than you usually do. Let your face get closer to his face so that he doesn't have to move as far to kiss you.
- Look at him longingly in his eyes. Fix his eyes with yours.
- Lick your lips seductively.
- Use positive body language and make eye contact.
- Be a good listener.
- Ask questions about someone's passions and interests.
- Share stories about yourself.
- Have a sense of humor and show people that you like to have fun.
- Give and receive constructive feedback.
- 8 types of love:
- He embraces all parts of you.
- He talks about a future with you.
- He's supportive.
- He makes an effort to grow closer.
- He's vulnerable with you.
- He prioritizes you.
- He meets you halfway.
- You feel safe with them. ...
- They listen. ...
- They acknowledge your differences instead of trying to change you. ...
- You can communicate easily. ...
- They encourage you to do your own thing. ...
- You trust each other. ...
- They make an effort. ...
- You know you can collaborate or compromise.
- Intimacy. Falling in love for intimate reasons can be described as having a basic friendship; it lacks commitment and passion. ...
- Passion. Letting ourselves fall in love because of desire or strong feelings for a person is normal. ...
- Commitment. ...
- Love Outside the Triangular Theory.
Physical attraction, sexual compatibility, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.What are the 7 steps of love? ›
- Discovery. At first, you may not realise what a treasure you have found. ...
- Hide and seek. In this second stage, you both have hopes and fears. ...
- Imperfection. ...
- Trusting. ...
- Resting. ...
- Sharing. ...
Takeaway. In many ways, men may fall in love in a way that mimics the female experience. The early stages can involve an infatuation with someone else, which can slowly deepen into trust, compassion and deep attachment. Men may also fall in love quickly and feel a strong need for affection from their partners.How can I make him miss me badly? ›
Simply be courteous and keep some physical distance between you two whenever you meet. Let him have his space but do let him know you miss him once in a while. Remind him of the fun things you did together before but not anymore. Communicate instead of giving the cold shoulder, hoping to send a message.How to make guys miss me? ›
- 01/6Tips to make your man miss you. ...
- 02/6Be mysterious enough. ...
- 03/6Have a fun time without him. ...
- 04/6Make him feel a little bit jealous. ...
- 05/6Don't reply to his calls or texts immediately. ...
- 06/6Don an addictive smell.
They Make Extra Effort To Talk To You
If your crush often finds excuses to talk to you like they text you to ask trivial things or stop a conversation with others to start one with you, then that could be a sign that they like you.
- Listen without judging.
- Stay in the moment.
- Ask them 'the best question'
- Ask for advice.
- Ask whether it's a good time.
- Meeting a stranger? Tell them you've only got a minute.
- Use the right body language.
Be straightforward and come to the point and make him realise that he can be honest with you and express his feelings for you without being judged or critiqued. There are many body language signs like his gaze, his way of talking to you and more such things that can help you know how he feels for you.How do you test a guy if he's serious about you? ›
- He Listens to You. If a guy is serious about you, he will really listen and he won't take anything you say for granted. ...
- He Makes Future Plans. ...
- He Checks Up on You. ...
- He Helps You with Any Problem. ...
- He Makes You a Priority. ...
- He Does Thoughtful Things. ...
- He Introduces You to His Friends.
The short answer: yes. It is absolutely possible to get a sense of whether or not someone is in love with you based on physical and non-physical signs. “Usually, we sense this through their microexpressions or the others' behavior,” says relationship expert Parisa Bady.How do you tell if someone loves you but is hiding it? ›
- They may act a bit awkward around you. Who doesn't get a bit tongue-tied around a crush? ...
- They compliment you often. ...
- They get a little jealous. ...
- They ask questions. ...
- They remember the details. ...
- They want to spend time with you. ...
- They listen. ...
- They lean in when you talk.
Passionate love feels like instant attraction with a bit of nervousness. It's the "feeling of butterflies in your stomach,"Lewandowski says. "It's an intense feeling of joy, that can also feel a bit unsure because it feels so strong."
The early stages of falling in love can be summarized into three feelings: euphoria, personal endangerment, and exhaustion due to the first two. The euphoric feeling of falling in love is biological and hormone-based.At what point do people fall in love? ›
In 2016, Match reported findings that the average person surveyed says “I love you” after around 144 days, or about 4.5 months.What keeps men in love? ›
Clear communication, respect, and honesty can go a long way in helping them open up and reveal their innermost desires or insecurities. While you need to pay attention to their unspoken words and cues, giving them their personal space is also important in strengthening the relationship and communication further.What is the golden rule of love? ›
Our golden rule for couples is: “Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.” Instead of treating our partner as we would like to be treated, we need to treat them as they want to be treated.What is the first step of love? ›
Stage 1: Falling in love
The first stage of love, the falling in love stage, or the honeymoon phase, is pretty straight forward. This stage of love is defined by romance and attraction. You and your partner are getting to know one another on an emotional and physical level.
- Gifts. Some people express and feel love through gift-giving. ...
- Acts. Another way to express love is to do something kind or helpful for another person. ...
- Time. Spending quality time together is also an expression of love. ...
- Touch. Love can be expressed through physical affection. ...
Appreciation, infatuation, attraction, impression, and conviction are the 5 bonding stages for a man.What attracts boy to girl? ›
- A Smile. A smile is the best gift you can give, and it's even better when it comes from your partner. ...
- A Sense of Humour. A sense of humour is another quality that attracts men to women. ...
- Intelligence. ...
- Eye Contact. ...
- Confidence. ...
- Body Type. ...
- Personality Traits. ...
- Dressing Sense.
- Make Eye Contact. Save. ...
- Smile. ...
- Use Body Language. ...
- Touch Him Playfully. ...
- Find Subtle Ways To Put Yourself In His Path. ...
- Be Witty. ...
- Show Genuine Interest. ...
- Leave Some Questions Hanging.
Boys are attracted to girls who are confident and know what they are doing. More importantly, girls who have high self-esteem also value and respect others. Boys are usually looking for such girls on whom they can depend in the long run and feel secure.
Men love women who are thoughtful, caring, loving and kind. A woman who does little things for her man for no other reason other than that she loves him. A woman who makes him smile back whenever she smiles at him. A woman who radiates love and warmth from her heart.How to make a man miss you in bed? ›
Tease him when you are in bed and give him an idea of the positions you want to try. He would just go crazy wanting more. This also works if you're trying to figure out how to make your man miss you.How do you make a man want you? ›
- Smile. TODAY. ...
- Don't hide in the corner. ...
- Ask for his help. ...
- Talk about your hobbies. ...
- Don't dress for your girlfriends. ...
- Look him in the eye. ...
- Avoid the obvious. ...
- Go out alone or with one other friend.
- 01/7Look sharp. Always work on your looks and dress well. ...
- 02/7Make them miss you with these tricks. Want someone to miss you in your absence? ...
- 03/7Your scent. ...
- 04/7Be a bit mysterious. ...
- 05/7Become active on social media. ...
- 06/7Being independent. ...
- 07/7Leave something behind.
Physical attraction, sexual compatibility, empathy, and emotional connection are key to making a man fall in love with a woman.What to text him to make him fall in love with you? ›
Romantic Love Messages for Husband
I choose you every day, and I'm so lucky you choose me, too. I didn't know what marrying your best friend meant until I met you. You're my first thought every morning and my last thought before I go to sleep. You inspire a love in me that I never knew was possible.
In fact, researchers found that men thought about confessing love six weeks earlier, on average, than women. The general consensus among studies on love is that men fall in love faster than women.How do you know a man loves you? ›
If a man loves you, he will show that he wants to be your partner. He will be interested in your life and in your friends and family. He will find the right words for various situations. He won't play games but will give you a clear sign of how he feels.What guys do when fall in love? ›
When guys fall deeply in love, they will want to talk to a special someone no matter what. When you see a man fall in love, he will want to do anything it takes for the woman to feel safe. For men to fall in love, they may express it through affection, which is important for both sexes.Can you see love in someones eyes? ›
Actually, science has proven it so! Certain chemicals (or endorphins) that produce the emotion of love can be emitted through emotions expressed in the eyes. There are physiological changes in the eyes that occur when love is expressed between two individuals.
According to Hani Henry, chair and associate professor of psychology in the Department of Sociology, Anthropology, Psychology and Egyptology at AUC, Robert Sternberg's psychological theory covers the most common reasons why we fall in love, namely: intimacy, passion and commitment.What is the strongest way to say I love you? ›
- I am here for you… always.
- I'm yours.
- I'm the luckiest person in the world.
- We are meant to be.
- I'd do anything to make you smile.
- You are my soulmate.
- My heart calls out for you.
- I like the way you make me feel, even when you are not around.
For example, he holds your hand, has his arms around you, hugs you, always sit close to you, etc. 2- He puts a lot of efforts to make you feel loved. He brings random gifts for you, sings a song for you on a special day, makes time to talk to you anyhow, makes sudden plans, etc. 3- He always listens to you properly.How do you know if he has no feelings for you? ›
If he is always busy when you hit him up to make plans to hang out, agrees to meet but then cancels the date or seems more comfortable with hanging out in a group than spending one-on-one time with you, these are all signs he doesn't want to spend time with you.